Winning Your Ex Back, Part II

April 21, 2009 by  
Filed under Get Your Ex Back

This is the second and final part to a series about winning your ex back. In the first part, we discussed the important of giving him or her their own space to think about things, analyze the failure of the relationship, and gathering and controlling your emotions while trying to improve your own personal growth from the experience.

Arranging a meeting with your ex is the best way to get some face-to-face time together; this is absolutely necessary in order to eventually win him or her back. It’s important to remember that you should not mention the fact you want to get back together – find another reason to meet and speak with them. Try to remain calm throughout the conversation, and maintain subject matter that you both can be relaxed about.

The end of your relationship is bound to come up in the conversation at some point, and this will require some finesse to get around. Make sure they know that you are well aware of your faults and what your mistakes were, and you completely understand their decision to leave.

Always bring up whatever it is you’re doing for yourself to stop the destructive behavior and improve yourself, and that you’re doing it because you want to change for the future – not because of them.

You need to be prepared for your ex to agree that everything was your fault and you are the reason for everything falling apart. No one likes to hear these things, but you need to keep your pride in check to prevent seeming fake.

After nearly reaching the end of the meeting, you may feel it is acceptable to suggest getting together again in the future. Don’t pressure your ex, just make them feel as if you want to continue to be friends in the future. Then, you can simply step away and allow your ex to think it over on their own.

This is perhaps the hardest part of the process, because you need to exercise some self control. Leaving it up to your ex to call you and get together can be a wrenching experience if you’re trying to get back together.

No matter what you do, you cannot give in and call them before they call you first. The good news is that you have had a successful meeting, and this could cause them to think of you fondly and want to get together sooner. If you give in and call them first, you risk them losing this opinion, and they may feel that you’ve tried to manipulate them.

Committing to changing your habits that contributed to the ending of the relationship, working on developing better listening skills, and exercising self control will put you on the path to possibly saving your relationship with your ex.

Always remain truthful and self-sufficient, and refuse to seem desperate and needy. If you continue to be steadfast and try to change your ways, your ex will most likely begin to seek you out and thus rekindle the romantic relationship you once shared.

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